The Secret to finding love is, “If you believe that you deserve to be loved, you will attract a positive, fulfilling and healthy relationship into your life.”

If you want to be noticed in the Singles Arena, then you have to be comfortable with really getting deeper about what makes up the real you, your Character, and your Power?.

  • What makes you stick out in the crowd?
  • What is your attitude towards finding love again?

For you to be unique you have to start accepting yourself e.g., people will give you compliments about your outfits, don’t water them down by saying, “Oh you mean this cheap thing, I bought from a secondhand store.” That’s giving too much information; it’s not that person’s business to know where you bought unless they ask.


1). Change The Way You Look and Treat Yourself.

Remember when you were in love once, you used to find out with enthusiasm what he liked and sometimes mimicked him, you dressed well and smelt well.

Now you are no longer with him and you have put yourself on the sidelines why?

So, you only look after yourself when a guy shows interest in you?

In order to fall in love with yourself, you have to put the same effort in your life and those around you.

 Look at your past, what have you learnt from it, that you can use to change your future.

 Revisit your relationships with those around you. How do they relate to you?  Be more present in your work, personal life and dreams.

  • Are You Your Best Friend?

Think about this for a minute?

  • Why Is It When You Were In Love, You Never Stopped Thinking About that guy?

You used to have this huge smile when you thought about him. Now reverse engineer those feelings towards you.

Have you ever wondered why some guys break up with and they keep coming

back? Do you know why some people don’t even want anything to do with you?

What makes you unique?

  • Don’t be a boring individual who waits to be talked to. Have the mordacity to approach people and start a conversation.

 Always strive to develop yourself so that you become the best version of yourself.

  • Don’t always answer questions with the same robot-like answers e.g., “Oh yes I totally agree.” Why can’t you add why you like it? This will make the guy see that you have brains, and you can start a conversation.

“Don’t Be A YES, Woman All the Time. It’s

Boring!! Here is a secret.

Men need to know that they have worked for something and have earned it;

otherwise, they will not value it. It’s very important to keep these men on their toes.

Men want to know if you have an opinion. If you don’t have one, then you are boring and you will get them yawning in no time on a date. Am sure there have been dates where you fight a yawn so hard that you start coughing!!

Giving your opinion and showing that you are interested in getting to know more about this guy, is key to creating that connection to be:

  1. He will feel intrigued.
  2. He gets curious about you.
  • He gets very entertained by you and will want more.

Most women think that showing, they have an opinion will chase the men away, NO!! Just be careful not to be sarcastic about your opinions, be fun and respectful.

 Check back at your previous dates, why didn’t he call you when he said he would? You probably bored this guy to death, he did not want to be rude, to call you and break up with you. The best way out was to ghost you, hence no second date.

 Don’t be a chronic people pleaser, by trying to please everyone. Have a backbone and learn to say no and mean it.

Do not sacrifice who you are for the sake of a relationship, e.g., have sex when you are not ready just so that you don’t lose this man? Huge mistake.

Remember you are the prize/queen in this equation. You are a catch!

If you want to find love after a long dry spell, then you have to do things differently, because of your old ways did not work.




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