When you wake up before your partner, why is it important to be quiet? How do you open and close doors in the house? Ever thought about how you have learned to close and open the door and tiptoe around the house like a cat? Most of us have become experts at closing the door ever-so-quietly. do you want to know the secret to closing a door quietly?

Let me teach you how, it sounds obvious when you think about it but it’s a technique and it helps not to disturb your partner’s sleep. None of us want to hear doors being slammed and things being thrown around when we are sleeping.

The best way to close a door quietly is, to close it slowly while using your other hand to push against it in the opposite direction. One hand closing the door, and the other hand resisting the closing of the door. Put simply, oppositional force makes things go smoothly. Most of the time you have to bite your lip a little bit to make sure you are quiet.

What does this have to do with relationships?


Let’s look at it this way. It’s the friction… the opposing forces of our relationships and lives.. the differentness that creates aliveness. Now, I find that the best relationships have a healthy combination of sameness and differentness. Because an excess of friction just creates fire… and unrestrained fire can destroy anything in its path.

These are the secrets to the healthiest relationships. The similarity of values/mission/goals in life… and some differences.

Too much sameness? Flatline. Boring. Dull. Variety is the spice of life right?

Too much differentness? Too much friction. All passion, no commonality. Sure, you want to spend Friday night with them but you definitely don’t want them around on Sunday morning, it clearly means everyone is different and we need to celebrate the differences.

So ask yourself, do you influence each other for the better in your relationships with your partner and family members?

I know you might say, “But Rose, I don’t want anyone to change me. I want them to accept me exactly as I am, forever!” In the real world, it does not work like that, no one survives in a vacuum. Too bad for you!!

Love changes us. Our relationships change us. The people we are closest to shape us.

The important thing is to be discerning enough that you only allow people in your corner who you want to influence and shape you as a person.

The people that we let into our lives… and I mean really let in… is one of the most important decisions we will ever make for our short and long-term health and happiness. So are you keeping peace in the house by simply closing the door quietly behind you? It’s the little things that build or break relationships in life.

I hope that this email finds you well and that this gives you something to chew on.

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Happy New Year to you!

Love Coach