Do you want to hear a simple way to know you are self-sabotaging your dates??
Here it is …..????????????????
Imagine you’re out to lunch with a man you just met. He’s wearing a very clean, well-pressed suit with a crispy white shirt.
There’s just one issue here…
He’s got a big mustard stain right in the middle of his chest, and it’s about the size of a tennis ball.
He’s a great guy, very handsome, looks well put together, and well mannered. You like him. But when you think about that lunch, hours later, what do you remember most?
THAT STAIN RIGHT?
What’s LOVE got to do with you? EVERYTHING!
You see, the Mustard stain is a metaphor for the one thing you’re doing (that you don’t even realize you’re doing) that is pushing men away.
Just like you’d remember the stain on his shirt, the mustard stain is that one thing he remembers about you that made him feel unsure about being with you (regardless of what he said).
It’s the one thing that’s responsible for you not finding the love you’re looking for, and you don’t even realize it’s there. That’s where I can help you. I’m a master at detecting “mustard stains” in a woman’s personality and overall energy. I can help you figure out what you are doing that’s destroying your chances to find love.
Here’s how:
I’ve decided to give away Eight free calls to my readers. I’d like to spend 30 minutes on Zoom with you and help you find what’s getting in your way. I’m very fast at finding hidden blocks, and I’d like to do that for you.
No catch. This is just my gift to you.
I have some time this 2nd week of June 2023, so why don’t you book your session with me? ????????
https://roseslifecoaching.com/bookings/
Rosemary
Your Love and Dating Coach
Healing Your Heart With Energy Healing
We have all suffered from heartbreak at one time or another. As human beings, we have emotions, imperfections, and the need to be loved, none of us is immune. While the capacity for healing relationships may be inside you, sometimes a broken relationship can’t be repaired. It’s times like these when it’s critical to know how to heal heartbreak, so you can move on and experience joy.
You know healing from heartbreak can be a long process.
You might question yourself, what went wrong? You might feel like you (or the other person) are to blame. You may feel like you’ll never get over it and be happy again — let alone be able to love someone else. While there is no single, correct method for healing from heartbreak, there are some things you can try in order to enable your innate ability to recover from the loss. Here are a few suggestions.
Move Forward After a Heart Break in 8 steps.
1. Give Yourself Permission to Heal
You might think this might sound silly. Being stuck in pain mode and remunerating over what happened only increases your pain and elongates your period of suffering. Why do that route, of course, you would choose to heal, wouldn’t you? Most people would. But without realizing it, we may also give ourselves too much time to wallow in self-pity, because sometimes it’s easier. While a period of sadness and loss after heartbreak is perfectly normal, be careful not to use your heartbreak as an excuse to bury yourself in your job, abuse alcohol or substances, jump head-first into another relationship, or have an extended pity party. This is not the best way to heal from heartbreak — this is how to delay or bury your feelings and your ability to move on. Instead, acknowledge the heartbreak. Allow yourself to feel and process it. Give yourself permission to do that, but not to wallow in or bury those painful feelings.
2. Never Beat Yourself Up
Most of the time, the old adage that it “takes two to tangle” holds true in healing from heartbreak. One person rarely bears all the responsibility for a relationship falling apart. You can ask yourself did I make mistakes? Maybe you did. Did your ex make mistakes? Sure. But it’s one thing to apologize and feel sorry, and another thing to feel ongoing guilt and regret for something you cannot undo.
Remember while you’re not beating yourself up, do not beat up on the other person too. Even if they did hurt you, for your own health and balance, it’s critical that you let it go — whether they’ve apologized or not. This is for your own sanity and health.
3. Give Yourself Time to Grieve

Grieving is a process too and not an overnight event. Expecting yourself to feel better immediately won’t allow you to fully experience your feelings. If we don’t process our emotions, they are more likely to become trapped as negative vibrations inside us. Instead, try to acknowledge your sadness, anger, and any other feelings! It’s okay to feel whatever you feel.
4. What Makes You happy?
As humans, we tend to bury our feelings in work, substances, or a gallon of Ben & Jerry’s. But following your real passions — the hobbies and pursuits that bring you joy — can go a long way to boosting your spirits and your healing from heartbreak. Play music, sing, write, dance, and paint. If you love creating, create. If you enjoy being creative, then now is the best time to soak yourself in art or surround yourself with music. Writing can be a particularly helpful way to get your feelings out in a productive way.
5. Dont be Ashamed to ask for Support
Heartbreaks can make us feel alone and dead inside, but the truth is, many people can empathize with this experience. Call your best friends, your family, or anyone you know you can rely on. Our loved ones usually want to support us, but if they don’t know what’s going on in our lives, they don’t have the chance! You’ll be surprised how much better you feel after sharing how you feel with one or two people. If you don’t have a strong support system, consider joining a support group or talk therapy session.
6. Serve Others
I have learned that if there’s one thing in this life that can help you forget your own troubles, it’s helping others. Volunteer at a soup kitchen. Help your friend move. Knit or crochet a blanket for a new baby. Write a comforting note to your mom or your best friend. Getting outside yourself can make healing from heartbreak more bearable.

7. Release Emotional Baggage
If you’re dealing with emotional baggage or negative energy from past experiences or heartache, it could undermine your capacity for healing relationships or healing from heartbreak. Find, decode, and release trapped emotions or other negative energies by getting the trapped emotions removed, from your body. Getting rid of those issues may enable your mind, body, and spirit to recover. You have the ability to do so, you just need to enable it through balance.
Energy Healing to Release Emotional Baggage using Reiki and removing the Trapped Emotions

Trauma and Ghosts of feelings and trapped emotions can lurk in your subconscious, even if they’re inherited from others and were not personally experienced by you. These ghosts can keep you on a roller coaster of emotional ups and downs.
But the good news is they can be released, but you need to dig deep and find out what it is that is really keeping you awake at night.
The first thing you must do to rid yourself of these ghosts and start feeling whole again after leaving that past relationship is to identify who or what these troublesome spirits are. Begin by doing some close personal observation. Do you get agitated after being around a certain person? Is there a specific kind of phrase, comment, or interaction that sets you off?
Often, these triggers have nothing to do with the current person or situation at all, but instead, are a result of hidden imbalances after a break-up or deterioration of a relationship. For example, if you were in a verbally abusive relationship with a spouse who constantly put you down, a mere suggestion on how to do something as simple as folding clothes or washing dishes can unnerve you. You might begin to feel out of control; like that ghost of a past relationship is haunting you all over again.
One important thing to remember is that these triggers don’t have to define who you are, how strong you can be, and how far you have come. Triggers are your body’s natural responses to past hurts, and their purpose is to let you know you have trapped emotions waiting to be dealt with. Thankfully, the answers you need to deal with them are already stored in your subconscious mind; all you need to do is access them. From what I have experienced, the most powerful woman is the one that has recovered and found herself after her grief.
Energy Healing to Release Emotional Baggage: By Cutting the Cord

Just because you have removed yourself from a relationship physically does not mean you have disconnected yourself from that person on a subconscious level. In this context, cutting the cord means eliminating the unseen force that binds you to past relationships that no longer serve you.
These cords, or energy cords, are invisible energetic connections to people from your past. Most of them are good, but some are unhealthy and need to be severed. Once you have identified your ghost (or ghosts) of past relationships, all you need to do is ask the necessary questions to let them go and cut that cord.
For example, let’s say you have found an energy cord that ties you to a former caregiver, or boyfriend who has hurt you. you can get these trapped emotions by asking yourself a series of questions to help you identify and sever that connection if you find it to be detrimental. You could ask, “How is this cord tying me to him or her? Is there a specific event or interaction that causes and perpetuates it? When was it created? What’s the energetic attraction? Why do I keep letting her get to me? Is it time to move on, or can we rid ourselves of this ghost and mend our relationship?”
8. Move On From Heartbreak
Energetic heartbreak can lead to physical issues. Whether you’re married, divorced, or going through your first break-up, losing a partner dramatically increases your risk for physical heart damage.
If you’re in the middle of a heartbreaking situation, it might be time to get your heart checked, says a groundbreaking study published in the cardiovascular medical journal OpenHeart. The nineteen-year study by Aarhus University examined over 900,000 medical records to conclude that the recent death of a partner increases your risk of developing an irregular heartbeat by 41%. And the more sudden the death, the higher the risk.
“Stress has long been linked to arrhythmia in the heart, and the acute stress of losing your partner in life constitutes one of the biggest impacts of psychological stress one would experience,” said lead researcher Simon Graff. “We wanted to examine that association.”
Subjects under age sixty were more likely to develop an irregular heartbeat than their older counterparts. The greatest risk occurred 8-14 days after their partner’s death and gradually diminished over the following year.
While you often can’t control the outcome of a relationship, you can control your emotional response. Using Reiki Energy healing will help to see if trapped emotions or Heart-Walls are impacting your heart’s health. There is a need to start practicing stress-relieving activities like relaxation, meditation, and positive self-talk, or consult your medical professionals.
Move on from heartbreak by focusing on gratitude for what was learned through the relationship, appreciating the experience for what it was, and trying your best to practice understanding and empathy. Take this as an opportunity to learn more about yourself, develop new positive thought patterns, try out new activities, and deepen other relationships in your life with friends and family. Taking small steps now can ensure a happy, healthy heart for years to come.
In order to recover from past relationships it is much more of a process that needs patience and some work from you. However, those past hurts can be moved out of your way and healing and happiness can be restored.
At Roseslifecoaching, our goal is to help you achieve that special peace of mind, positive energy, and freedom you need to move forward with your life.
Are You Longing To Find Love
Hello dear
Are you currently single, and if so read.
Once upon a time, there was a time in my life when I was close to giving up on love because I had been hurt so badly.
My heart had been hurt too many times and I thought about just throwing in the towel.
Looking back now, of course, this is simply what the mind desires when it wants to avoid repeating a past pain.
The pride and ego shout,
‘Batten down the hatches! We’re not going through that level of pain ever again!
Get small… protect yourself… barely exist!’
And this strategy works! We can absolutely live a small, contracted, ‘safe’ life of barely getting by. People do it every day.
But my dear if you’re receiving this email from me, you aren’t looking to merely exist. You’re looking to thrive. You want to be big, powerful, fully expressed, and fully loved.
So today, I’m going to skip a stone over some of the most significant things you can do to call in an aligned, nourishing love relationship.
The first thing to know… is that the greatest way that anyone can call in an aligned love is to live a deeply self-honoring, joy-filled life.
How would you live your life if you knew you were going to be single forever, and still had to get up and fill your days to the brim with things that brought you deep fulfillment?
Identify those things, and then live that way.
Because it is when we are sourced in our truest essence, and radio-signaling our version of authentic joy out into the world that the right people will notice and resonate with us.
But it doesn’t end there.
Because while living an aligned, nourishing life is a master key in calling in an aligned, nourishing partner… it’s not the whole picture.
There are some sneaky ways that I frequently see people sabotaging their relational efforts.
*They will maintain a friends-with-benefits situation to get their physical needs met, ‘just in the meantime’, while looking for a partner.
*If you’re energetically tied up with someone, no matter how casual you feel it to be, you will not be fully available for a real relationship, and you will repel people who would have been aligned partners. Plus, casual sex is essentially the practice of disconnecting your heart from your genitals, and this, as a long-term practice, leads people to be disembodied and overly compartmentalized.
*They will settle for relationship dynamics that aren’t actually true for them.
Are you ‘trying out polyamory’ or have you simply resigned to the fact that you don’t believe that you can get all of your major emotional needs met through one person?
*They lower their standards… while settling for breadcrumbs across multiple pillars of their lives.
Listen, I get it. Resting in a state of open-hearted yearning is challenging. Allowing yourself to feel hopeful is inherently vulnerable. And it must be done. When we close off our hearts to the world, we guarantee the lack of connection that we say we want. But if we courageously keep our hearts open to the world and allow ourselves to fully feel the weight of our longing, then we will be in a position where we can call in the real thing.
It really does come down to this…
Can I stay open?
Can I long? Can I yearn? Can I let my heart stay blasted open while I call in my forever partner?
Or will I close? Will I take the easy route? Will I shut down my heart, say ‘To hell with it all’, and contract inwards while maintaining a self-protective contortion?
Live an aligned life of joy, passion, courage, and openness…
While avoiding any of the common pitfalls that people use to block their reception…
And it will only be a matter of time until you meet someone who meets you beyond anything you’ve ever experienced before.
Opening to that kind of love will require everything you have. Resilience and Courage will absolutely be required.
But it will be worth it.
I hope that this message finds you well.
Dedicated to you experiencing a relationship so nourishing, so fulfilling… that its beauty and tenderness bring you to tears and the softness of your feminine energy.
Your Love Coach
Rosemary
A Few Spots Left
I to extend this invitation to you as my special and value client in my tribe. I have about 5 spots left in the new program I am only offering privately before i offer it to the public.
The Dating After A Long Dry Spell program, the 12-week program which is designed to help you find the partner of your dreams. This program is not not for everyone.
I know this may sound surprising, but this is because attracting your ideal partner requires you to embrace your vulnerabilities, which can be a challenge for many.
To be a good fit for The Dating After A Long Dry Spell program, you need three specific qualities:
- You need to be decisive and committed. You need to realize that you will not figure out the key to dating since you have tried it your way and it has not worked and attracting the partner of her dreams on her own seems far-fetched.
- You are 100% committed to the outcome and the process.
- You are very coachable and open to trying a different way than you may be used to.
- You also need to be resourceful and willing to find a way to get what you want.
Here is the deal, the only piece of the puzzle you are missing is a partner who is an equal…a partner who inspires you and who is open to a committed relationship.
If you feel these three qualities accurately describe you, feel free to book a discovery call with me to see if you are good fit for the Dating After a Long Dry Spell.
Send me an email or book your spot using the link below.
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Don’t let this chance slip you by and find the love of your life, so you are not alone next Valentine.
Your Love Coach
Rosemary
Ever Tried Dating Friendly
Hello There
Today I want to talk about how dating friendly can help you land your man in no time. Most women miss chances of meeting great men because they focus on the wrong things, like physical looks and voice.
Try dating-friendly and ditch your list of qualities you think you need for a husband. I am not saying you should settle but you should give the guy the chance to prove himself.
In my video, I talk. bout the different things that you should consider when you go on dates and also what it means to date friendly.
Let me know if this helped you to make decisions on your dates.
Happy Dating Friendly,
Lots of Love
Your Love Coach Rosemary
WHAT IS THE ART OF GROWING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
When you wake up before your partner, why is it important to be quiet? How do you open and close doors in the house? Ever thought about how you have learned to close and open the door and tiptoe around the house like a cat? Most of us have become experts at closing the door ever-so-quietly. do you want to know the secret to closing a door quietly?
Let me teach you how, it sounds obvious when you think about it but it’s a technique and it helps not to disturb your partner’s sleep. None of us want to hear doors being slammed and things being thrown around when we are sleeping.
The best way to close a door quietly is, to close it slowly while using your other hand to push against it in the opposite direction. One hand closing the door, and the other hand resisting the closing of the door. Put simply, oppositional force makes things go smoothly. Most of the time you have to bite your lip a little bit to make sure you are quiet.
What does this have to do with relationships?
Everything.
Let’s look at it this way. It’s the friction… the opposing forces of our relationships and lives.. the differentness that creates aliveness. Now, I find that the best relationships have a healthy combination of sameness and differentness. Because an excess of friction just creates fire… and unrestrained fire can destroy anything in its path.
These are the secrets to the healthiest relationships. The similarity of values/mission/goals in life… and some differences.
Too much sameness? Flatline. Boring. Dull. Variety is the spice of life right?
Too much differentness? Too much friction. All passion, no commonality. Sure, you want to spend Friday night with them but you definitely don’t want them around on Sunday morning, it clearly means everyone is different and we need to celebrate the differences.
So ask yourself, do you influence each other for the better in your relationships with your partner and family members?
I know you might say, “But Rose, I don’t want anyone to change me. I want them to accept me exactly as I am, forever!” In the real world, it does not work like that, no one survives in a vacuum. Too bad for you!!
Love changes us. Our relationships change us. The people we are closest to shape us.
The important thing is to be discerning enough that you only allow people in your corner who you want to influence and shape you as a person.
The people that we let into our lives… and I mean really let in… is one of the most important decisions we will ever make for our short and long-term health and happiness. So are you keeping peace in the house by simply closing the door quietly behind you? It’s the little things that build or break relationships in life.
I hope that this email finds you well and that this gives you something to chew on.
If you have not joined our Facebook group here ie the link called “Find Him and Keep Him,”
https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingsmartrelationshipadvice
Happy New Year to you!
Love Coach
Rosemary