5 Relationship Killers and How to Avoid Them

Here are five major relationship killers you may want to avoid:

  1. Controlling Behavior – Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear motivates various forms of controlling behavior. Controlling behavior falls into two major categories: overt control and covert control. Controlling behavior always results in resentment and emotional distance, bringing about the very rejection that it is meant to avoid.
  2. Resistance – Many people enter a relationship with a deep fear of losing themselves. The moment they experience their partner wanting control over them, they respond with resistance- withdrawal. When one partner is controlling and the other is resistant, which is really an attempt to have control over not being controlled – the relationship becomes immobilized. Partners in this relationship system feel frustrated, stagnant, and resentful. Don’t be a control freak!! 
  3. Neediness – Many people enter a relationship believing that it is their partner’s job to fill their emptiness, take away their loneliness, and make them feel good about themselves. When people have not learned how to take responsibility for their own feelings and needs, and to define their own self-worth, they may pull on their partner and others to fill them with the love they need. Your partner’s job is not to complete you, but to compliment you. Create your own happiness.                
  4. Substance and Process Addictions – Most people who feel empty inside turn to addictions. While no one plans on becoming an addict (in any realm) it can happen. This usually creates an unhealthy environment. 
  5. Eyes on Partners Plate – Many people are acutely aware of what their partner is doing that is causing relationship problems, but completely unaware of what they are doing. You cannot change anyone. It is not your job to fix your partner.

You can only change yourself

So there you go! Build don’t kill your relationships.

— Rosemary
Your Life & Relationship Coach



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